CATS
-- roaming, contained or fixed ... ?
-- what is it about cats?
PEOPLE
-- mid life?
-- 'civilization'?
-- kind, decent, free, honest, communicating people?
RELATIONSHIPS
-- 'someone for everyone'?
-- Lee's Love Styles Inventory (not printed by permission)
-- comm/conversation toxicity (ramble)
-- 'compatibility'? 'more than one right one'? 'nondiscriminatory practice'? etc
-- rejection
-- transference; electro-chemical charge; protector/provider; adam's apple
... 3628 wonder?
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CATS
... they get pregnant very easily and most anytime of the year, they're 'wild' to have as pets but you gotta especially look out for the 'propagating calculator' if you have female(s) ... ... we're an unplanned family so the maintenance routine, in my condition as subjected and looks still bein' sat / sat, obscures the better times we have together, sad to say, especially since we are a family of sorts (species, but) and it's frightening to suppose where other people may not draw a line with this sort of family compared to an all human family, property, home, etc
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... when the communication isn't attempts at discipline, but even then sometimes, they don't want discipline so much as gettin' 'roughed up' a little, not like meanness, just like playin' so they feel alive and frisky ...
... settlin' in and petting, one, the other or both, are big parts of what cats are about and what one does with cats that makes 'em special ...
... I don't know what it is about 'em really, maybe someday I'll be able to characterize it in words ... they're all unique, they have their own personality and ways of doin' things, their voices are all different, some closer to the same but all different, for calling, for mating ... they aren't like little people, but, it's sorta like they're monkeys, but they're carnivorous ... carnivorous rabbit monkeys ... and, for some of us that thought back when we were kids that havin' a monkey would be a trip, it is, well, although, like I say, they aren't exactly monkeys, still ...
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PEOPLE
Who were you? Are
you someone different now, what
changed?
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... what's that line about how you can tell if a people is 'civilized' by the laws they have to govern themselves ... ?
two questions
(1) the quality of those laws ... ?
(2) how people treat one another whether by laws or not, but especially without ... ?
... civilized ... laws ... ?
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... kind, decent, free, honest, communicating people ... all those words in that phrase are definitional and open to interpretation though and should probably be defined mutually between the people considering them ... ... these people may be as much a figment of my imagination, or at least an illusion you get by only seein' their good side in fleetinginteractions encounters (better
word choice, the other may not only imply conversation but also business of some
sort and not as personal) now and then, they're ideals from some outter
appearances now and then ... and it ought be known that even if they exist
they're only what they are and there isn't implication beyond that that we'd
even get along, as stated for longer lengths of time ...
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... what's that line about how you can tell if a people is 'civilized' by the laws they have to govern themselves ... ?
two questions
(1) the quality of those laws ... ?
(2) how people treat one another whether by laws or not, but especially without ... ?
... civilized ... laws ... ?
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... kind, decent, free, honest, communicating people ... all those words in that phrase are definitional and open to interpretation though and should probably be defined mutually between the people considering them ... ... these people may be as much a figment of my imagination, or at least an illusion you get by only seein' their good side in fleeting
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RELATIONSHIPS
... just because they say, "there's someone for everyone," doesn't necessarily make it true ...
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Lee's Love Styles Inventory
Manic
Agapic
Pragma
Ludic
Erotic
Storge
(not placed in any particular order exactly; sharing the information for ones maybe would be curious about it)
(not printed by permission in event may be a copyright infringement; simply mentioning here in blog not as this being a permanent hard copy copyrighted work, because it ain't)
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notes:
comm/conversation toxicity and relationship therapy as alternative to dissolution when mutually agreed is to try and 'salvage' (word choice, 'grow')
truth (and trust) in a brainwashed culture ... ?
-- number of ways people do relationships, the notes on compatibility weren't intended, as nothing else in these pages, as mandate/the way/etc
... some of us (maybe only speaking for myself) thought we had relationships to do in this lifetime and were terribly uninformed as to to some of the very basic yet vital mechanics/dynamics of how things work
... something that hasn't been addressed: 'mouse trap' that is a two way street if both are uninformed, that is, a two way street under serious mal repair and in need of construction (personal opinion)
... other thing, train of thought lost ... maybe for recall later, nope, here's telepathy on ghost busters again ... sex ... for people decently informed, sex (although, again, personal opinion, everything is topic for conversation, personally) ... sex is better kept from at least, maybe at the very least, during the transference whatever we call that time of as much as 6 months by the book (personal encounters, 3-4 should see it nearer level plane)
*I am neither a relationships expert nor a therapist, what I have here is a result of what little I saw personally, what little I studied in college directly related to the topics and lots of time to ponder what went wrong and why I have been kept from relationships in this lifetime
Question occurred whether the following question is reasonable as a beginning for where relationships ought begin (for myself, anyone of similar mind): Do I suppose this person to be someone I would enjoy a conversation with (nothing more implied)? For what reason(s)?
I do not do war. I have been in the military service, many years ago, in peacetime no combat, for money from G.I. Bill to pay my way through college. I enjoy catharsis in music, movies and books that may would cast doubt. I was an adolescent and did some stupid things many years ago not only because of my age (psychological age), but, I think, because of the ignorance I was kept in and the frustration that engendered. I do not consider myself a drone, and, I do not appreciate being taken advantage of nor walked on.
There are thoughts on what all kinds of problems lack of love causes. Love being definitional, relative and subjective ... it's likely something different not only for each of us but at different times and in different situations.
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... assumption (for how some would do relationships): to do relationships well, by definition, again, to some one would suppose, means doing them with 'compatible' others (free, mobile society) ...
-- question: What is 'compatible'?
-- thoughts:
(1) the information fits (one type of compatibility; that is, similar values, interests, etc)
(2) mutually sexually attracted (mutuality is assumed desired, though one expects [sexist] pedestals, etc)
... assumes transference grounded is understood
(3) communication style / conversation ... toxicity ... etc
(4) how does it feel, is there mutual affinity at what point necessary
(5) degree/type of Trust for stage of development of the relation ... well founded?
... nature, nurture, abuse of individuals and what counts as healthy adult (dis)trust?
-- > 1 right 1 therefore 5, 10, 15 billion?
-- non-discriminatory business practice and overgeneralized to personal relationships not taught relationships?
... hybriding the species for 'strength'? war?
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... do humans as a species generally have problems with Rejection, both directions, rejecting and being rejected in the process of mate selection ... ? (emphasis on 'process', though, that may be part of the problem, for some there is no process involved somehow, I guess, is that accurate) ...
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I guess this one I ain't exactly if at all at liberty to comment on, at least not without criticism and one(s) all too ready to 'fix it' instead of listening to what I have to say.
In that fear still I'll type what little I did learn* for what value it may be for anyone(s) that aren't aimin' at me. *I say these are things I learned, there's conjecture involved, it's to ponder and see if it fits for you as well, for the species, us humans.
transference -- attachment in relationship context (maybe love at first sight does, odds)
electro-chemical charge -- sexual arousal attribution (what about the stork)
protector/provider -- attachment formation (shouldn't be assumed)
adam's apple -- pleasure drive; attachment formation (may should be hyper glandular disclaimor ... one type or another)
There is the wonder if 3628 is reasonable for humans that look to maybe not be civilized enough for it, personal account ... 3 dates (implication as means of getting to know one another as people in neutral social settings no sex involved) for determining if beyond that is desired by both; 6 months of transference (by the book) if decided to escalate to this level of 'commitment' for another decision making process at the end of the ride (again, no sex is assumed since it compounds and confounds especially during this lowered defenses stage); 2 years of cohabitation for those liberal enough for that without commitment beyond but for that (exceptions arise that could necessitate breaking commitment at any stage, including marriage, people get divorces, practically one likely tries ones best to keep ones commitments though is suppposed); 8, like infinity, representing nuptual commitment mutually sought and vowed. Stages of escalation, again, a wonder, a ponder, not something I have seen especially in my own life, nor as best aware among relationships of others I have been around through the years. I don't know if it's a good plan of approach. The big problem of the ignorance I come from was with the transference and sex, supposing equal and sexually liberated to only find 'shotgun' reality and then no shotgun realty, but that's another 'thing,' I suppose.
sub-page last revised: Tuesday, October 8, 2013
comm/conversation toxicity and relationship therapy as alternative to dissolution when mutually agreed is to try and 'salvage' (word choice, 'grow')
truth (and trust) in a brainwashed culture ... ?
-- number of ways people do relationships, the notes on compatibility weren't intended, as nothing else in these pages, as mandate/the way/etc
... some of us (maybe only speaking for myself) thought we had relationships to do in this lifetime and were terribly uninformed as to to some of the very basic yet vital mechanics/dynamics of how things work
... something that hasn't been addressed: 'mouse trap' that is a two way street if both are uninformed, that is, a two way street under serious mal repair and in need of construction (personal opinion)
... other thing, train of thought lost ... maybe for recall later, nope, here's telepathy on ghost busters again ... sex ... for people decently informed, sex (although, again, personal opinion, everything is topic for conversation, personally) ... sex is better kept from at least, maybe at the very least, during the transference whatever we call that time of as much as 6 months by the book (personal encounters, 3-4 should see it nearer level plane)
*I am neither a relationships expert nor a therapist, what I have here is a result of what little I saw personally, what little I studied in college directly related to the topics and lots of time to ponder what went wrong and why I have been kept from relationships in this lifetime
Question occurred whether the following question is reasonable as a beginning for where relationships ought begin (for myself, anyone of similar mind): Do I suppose this person to be someone I would enjoy a conversation with (nothing more implied)? For what reason(s)?
I do not do war. I have been in the military service, many years ago, in peacetime no combat, for money from G.I. Bill to pay my way through college. I enjoy catharsis in music, movies and books that may would cast doubt. I was an adolescent and did some stupid things many years ago not only because of my age (psychological age), but, I think, because of the ignorance I was kept in and the frustration that engendered. I do not consider myself a drone, and, I do not appreciate being taken advantage of nor walked on.
There are thoughts on what all kinds of problems lack of love causes. Love being definitional, relative and subjective ... it's likely something different not only for each of us but at different times and in different situations.
-----------------------------------------------------------
... assumption (for how some would do relationships): to do relationships well, by definition, again, to some one would suppose, means doing them with 'compatible' others (free, mobile society) ...
-- question: What is 'compatible'?
-- thoughts:
(1) the information fits (one type of compatibility; that is, similar values, interests, etc)
(2) mutually sexually attracted (mutuality is assumed desired, though one expects [sexist] pedestals, etc)
... assumes transference grounded is understood
(3) communication style / conversation ... toxicity ... etc
(4) how does it feel, is there mutual affinity at what point necessary
(5) degree/type of Trust for stage of development of the relation ... well founded?
... nature, nurture, abuse of individuals and what counts as healthy adult (dis)trust?
-- > 1 right 1 therefore 5, 10, 15 billion?
-- non-discriminatory business practice and overgeneralized to personal relationships not taught relationships?
... hybriding the species for 'strength'? war?
----------------------------------------------------------
... do humans as a species generally have problems with Rejection, both directions, rejecting and being rejected in the process of mate selection ... ? (emphasis on 'process', though, that may be part of the problem, for some there is no process involved somehow, I guess, is that accurate) ...
-------------------------------------------------------------
I guess this one I ain't exactly if at all at liberty to comment on, at least not without criticism and one(s) all too ready to 'fix it' instead of listening to what I have to say.
In that fear still I'll type what little I did learn* for what value it may be for anyone(s) that aren't aimin' at me. *I say these are things I learned, there's conjecture involved, it's to ponder and see if it fits for you as well, for the species, us humans.
transference -- attachment in relationship context (maybe love at first sight does, odds)
electro-chemical charge -- sexual arousal attribution (what about the stork)
protector/provider -- attachment formation (shouldn't be assumed)
adam's apple -- pleasure drive; attachment formation (may should be hyper glandular disclaimor ... one type or another)
There is the wonder if 3628 is reasonable for humans that look to maybe not be civilized enough for it, personal account ... 3 dates (implication as means of getting to know one another as people in neutral social settings no sex involved) for determining if beyond that is desired by both; 6 months of transference (by the book) if decided to escalate to this level of 'commitment' for another decision making process at the end of the ride (again, no sex is assumed since it compounds and confounds especially during this lowered defenses stage); 2 years of cohabitation for those liberal enough for that without commitment beyond but for that (exceptions arise that could necessitate breaking commitment at any stage, including marriage, people get divorces, practically one likely tries ones best to keep ones commitments though is suppposed); 8, like infinity, representing nuptual commitment mutually sought and vowed. Stages of escalation, again, a wonder, a ponder, not something I have seen especially in my own life, nor as best aware among relationships of others I have been around through the years. I don't know if it's a good plan of approach. The big problem of the ignorance I come from was with the transference and sex, supposing equal and sexually liberated to only find 'shotgun' reality and then no shotgun realty, but that's another 'thing,' I suppose.
sub-page last revised: Tuesday, October 8, 2013
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